It comes as no surprise that things
don't always happen as planned. In fact,
I often wonder how many things actually DO turn out exactly as planned....but
that is a topic for another time. In
this case, the PLAN was to run a half-marathon together in every state - with
Hawaii being number 50, with the entire family, the latter part of January,
2012. This plan entailed a comprehensive
analysis of race availability and desirability by state, the resolution of issues
when limited options caused conflicts with other states, ability to travel to
various places when needed, and spacing events at appropriate, or at least
acceptable intervals. Although the plan
evolved a bit, it was pretty definitive by early 2010 - and it called for State
#49 to be in South Carolina (Kiawah Island) in December 2011. We had planned this race for late in the
cycle - knowing Alysia and Topher would be living back there then and it would
be a great time for a visit. However,
sometimes matters of the heart intervene. In this case it was Karen's heart. In her words, she had been feeling a bit
"punk" for quite some time, and was becoming concerned that it was
more than cold or flu. Just prior to Thanksgiving she had an
appointment with her Cardiologist, who reached a much different conclusion: she
had a serious heart valve infection (endocarditis) that required immediate
intervention. Instead of us all heading
off to Las Vegas and Emily's for the holiday, Rachel went with other family to
Las Vegas and I stayed home to be with Karen, who spent the next four days in
the hospital on an intravenous antibiotic.
When they released her to come home it was with a PICC-line (Peripherally
Inserted Central Catheter) that required servicing with an antibiotic twice a
day and that was destined to be in her arm for the next six weeks. Needless to say, the Kiawah Island run was
not going to happen a week later.
Fortunately, the antibiotic, coupled
with the medical care she received, did what it was supposed to do and Karen
got a clean bill of health (with some cautionary instructions for the future)
just after New Year's - with the Cardiologist's blessing to participate in as
much physical activity as she felt up to.
At that point the question was whether there was ANY half-marathon in
South Carolina in the next two weeks that would allow us to still complete our
US Quest with the planned run in Hawaii.
There was! The Charleston
Marathon and Half-marathon was scheduled for the 14th of January and still had
open registration. We registered - and
Southwest Airlines agreed (not surprisingly, in my opinion) to just convert our
unused reservations from December to the new January dates - all at no cost.
The highlight of the short trip was
our visit with Alysia and Topher. Even
in the limited time we were there, we visited the Aquarium - which is really a
nice one with great exhibits; we had dinner with Topher at the Navy Galley (he
was Officer of the Day); visited a famous cemetery (Magnolia) with lots of
Civil War history, to include the graves of the victims of the H.L. Hunley -
the Confederacy's submarine attempt; and a great lunch at the Saffron in
downtown Charleston; and game nights with the Andersons. We flew home just in time to start packing
our bags for Maui and the family reunion in Hawaii!
I began this post with part of the
message from this race - one that is often hard for me to deal with - that
being plans that change! I am a detailed
planner; I like to execute on schedule; and I usually am focused on the end
result at the expense of much that might be going on around me. As Karen went through her several weeks of
not feeling well, I was convinced it wasn't serious - and even went so far as
to show her that menopause had many of the same symptoms she was experiencing! I certainly didn't want anything to derail our
"plan" at this point. When it
became apparent the plan would have to change - I was left with no choice but
to deal with it. Ultimately, we found a
way to still reach our goal on schedule, but I had to come to terms with that
not being the case. Did I learn
something in the process? Hopefully, to
be more aware and sensitive to things I may wish to characterize my own way -
and to recognize that there will be times when a plan can be changed and an
outcome modified - and still very acceptable.
Don't let a plan obscure matters
of the heart.